When someone you love leaves you there is no getting away from the excruciating pain they leave behind. And then one day you begin to smile again, that person that you thought you couldn’t live without just remains in your heart, and you realise that not everything is meant to be a forever kind of thing. If you’re having a hard time letting go, remind yourself if they wanted to stay they would still be there.
There are many people that have to leave a relationship having found themselves in a compromising situation, it takes strength and courage to walk away from someone, but it’s better to leave than to hurt yourself even more by staying. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, rather accepting that there are things that cannot be….
Relationships are so much harder today with the onset of social media, dating apps and suchlike it’s so hard to build a solid foundation and trust with someone, all these “casual platforms” are actually creating barriers in bringing people closer, the options available to people to multi date and cheat is far greater than it is to find the “one”, too many people manufacturing relationships and then moving straight onto the next when things don’t work out. Online dating is killing relationships as we know them, people emotionally thinking that they know someone before the “first date”, and inviting people into their homes and life within days of meeting someone, this I’m afraid is a recipe for disaster. Our culture has accepted this as “normal”, just be smart enough if you are online dating to really get to know someone before inviting them into your life, I cannot tell you how many people I have spoken to who have lived to regret getting involved with someone they met online, only to discover they wasn’t ready for dating, let alone a relationship, it’s far too late to recognise that when you are in too deep.
When you are going through relationship collapse, you are vulnerable, you are naïve, and you will be emotionally unable to connect. If it has been sometime since you was in the “Dating Scene”, you will be susceptible in making some really bad choices, the right attention from the wrong individual during a lonely time can fool you into thinking they might be the one.
I was talking to someone the other day, who happened to mention they had met someone online and within 5 dates had moved in with them, having delved a little deeper into this, it turns out this person had broken up with the previous partner and so had “nowhere to go” in effect, so as you can see there are always reasons why people move on so quickly, hidden agenda’s should never be a part of dating or finding love. Yes, we are all seeking that special person, but you will only find this when you are in a place of peace with a full and happy life, only then will you know if you are choosing someone out of love and not fear of being alone…. That’s fair isn’t it?